Here's the deal…
If you have EVER set a goal for yourself or even PROMISED yourself that you would do something, but you STILL did not accomplish it, you are a victim of your own worst enemy (yourself)…
NEVER EEEEEEEVER Trust Yourself!!
I realized this when I started making promises to myself, and I still didn't follow through with them… UNTIL…
I started promising my Success Coach… Thats' when the real magic happened, because I was no longer holding myself accountable (which I think is almost impossible), and someone else was looking over my shoulder, holding me accountable!
And I don't just mean holding me accountable like “oh yeah, you better do this”, I mean literally making me email every single day with an update on what I did for the day, and sending the proof to all my work – NO EXCUSES! And if I don't do what I said I would do, I will lose points!!
FYI, the point system I speak of is a way to motivate me as a performer to follow through with the promises I set out for myself… It helps a lot, because nobody likes losing points… I'll talk about that on a future post. ;)
Why do you Suck at Holding Yourself Accountable?
I don't know the exact science behind it, but I believe it has something to do with the way we were raised… We all grew up following orders from other people, and we've never really followed our own orders. We didn't tell ourselves “Go to school!” or “Do your homework” (at least I didn't lol).
Our elders told us to do that… And the only reason we actually did it was because they were watching us to make sure that we did it! And if we disobeyed, there was always a consequence (usually a spanking – depending on your time era of course).
If it were up to me, growing up, I probably wouldn't even have gone to school everyday… Some days I just felt like sleeping in late, playing video games, or rocking out with my friends… But because my mother was holding me accountable every morning, and the government made it a LAW that I can either go to school or pay a truancy ticket, I went everyday I could.
Naturally, people just want to do what you feel like doing… But if you do not have the resources you need to do that yet, you need to work towards that goal by doing things that you might not feel like doing… But if you don't feel like working, you'll end up doing nothing.
And that's when the “excuses” come in…
“I'll do it later”
“I don't need to do it right now”
“This can wait”…
“I'll do it as soon as I finish watching The Office”… then “Oh! Better Off Ted is on! I'll work after this episode”…
“My toe is hurting, so I can't write that report”
And they just keep getting more & more clever… Who are you fooling? NOBODY!! You're NEVER going to do it!!
The only reason you can get away with these ridiculous excuses, is because you choose to let yourself get away with them! And it's ALWAYS going to be that way! Unless you…
Now, Here's the Solution:
Just find someone who will be YOUR Success Coach! Someone you can talk to once a week for just a few minutes at a time about your action plan… Someone who you can email once a day with the success you have accomplished for that day, and the stuff you did NOT follow through with…
And they will NOT accept any crappy excuses, or reasons why you didn't do what you said you would do… You either do it or you don't – no excuses or reasons why… ONLY success!
Every week, you two can go over your plan & fix any little glitches in your system to configure your action plan in a way that makes more sense & fits your needs…
That's what any real coach should do for you… If you know a Success Coach who can help you, get in touch with him or her & ask them if they can do you this favor… I promise, you'll be ETERNALLY GRATEFUL you did!!
And if you don't know anyone, you can always count on me. ;) I am a consultant for some big companies & entrepreneurs, but I also COACH people & will hold you accountable to your promises with no excuses or reasons why you “didn't”. ;)
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What kind of experience have you had with your own coach? And holding yourself accountable vs. having someone else hold you accountable?
I hope this post taught you a lot! If you know anyone who would benefit from it, please share with them! They'll be happy you did! ;)
P.S. I want to do everything in my power to help you succeed & live your dreams!! I say that all the time because I really mean it! So if you need me to hold you accountable, please don't hesitate to ask!!
But you absolutely NEED someone to start holding you accountable RIGHT NOW!! You NEED a Success Coach starting NOW!! Making promises to yourself is NOT enough!